Balance success in love, intimacy & life
- The Top 10 Reasons to Choose Our Services
- Our AUTHENTIC Transformation Process
- Coaching vs. Mentoring the differences explained
- Why an Education in Relationships is so important
- Testimonials
- FAQs
The Top 10 Reasons to Choose Our Services
- EXPERIENCE - As life coaches and executive coaches with high levels of ongoing training and experience in personal development, authenticity, personality and behaviour, leadership, plus with a relationship coaching training second to none and the experience of two failed marriages behind us…. we have all the tools, knowledge and experience you need to help you make the most of your life and your relationship with yourself and others.
- WE WALK THE TALK - Together Andrew & Diane practice what they preach. “OK, we are not perfect… and we do learn from our mistakes and from putting relationship best practise into practise and bringing it to you".
- WE DO THE BUSINESS - Andrew’s 12 years of experience as the former Director of a Strategic Business Marketing consultancy (now known as AdecsProfita, http://www.adecsprofita.co.uk/) and as an entrepreneur, means that he has great understanding and empathy with what it takes to be successful in all types of business, as well as in the rest of life.
- TRANSFORMATIONAL - Diane has worked with hundreds of men and
women, from successful executives to those in abusive relationships, or
single parent families. Having experienced and successfully overcome an
abusive relationship, Diane learned how to love herself again and
transform her life. So she understands how to inspire those in a place or
stress, fear or anxiety, to overcome these feelings – whether they are
totally debilitating, or simply acting as a glass ceiling to taking your
life, relationship or career to the next level. At the age of 40,
Andrew woke up to limiting beliefs, overcame the anger and frustration of
divorce and started to act in line with his values. Life became a whole
lot better and keeps getting better. For both Andy and Diane, life truly began at 40. They now inspire others to do similar. When would you like your life to change gear? What are you waiting for? As 'they' say - life is not a dress rehearsal.
- HOLISTIC - Andrew’s degree in Sport Science and long standing interests in: performance improvement, nutrition, fitness, well being, longevity, a chemical free life, the psychology of success, sports coaching, give you the benefit of a holistic approach that can really work for you in raising your energy, being on top of your game and attracting the same in a relationship.
- FEAR-BUSTING - Diane is the
- FOR SINGLES OR THOSE IN A RELATIONSHIP - As recent “single again’s” (before meeting each other in July 2007), Andrew and Diane can coach singles or couples on how to attract a great relationship. Diane is a specialist teacher in the Law of Attraction, so as well as overcoming fear (what we call an ‘away from’), we can coach you on how to move ‘towards’ your ideal relationship (whether you are single or currently in a relationship).
- YING & YANG - As a couple, we specialise in couples coaching – giving you both a greater understanding of the male and female perspective, masculinity & femininity and the spark that these ignite in a relationship when properly understood and lovingly applied.
- IT’S A PROCESS – There are few quick fixes here (although a timely coaching session and well aimed questions may well be all you need to move forward). We have all too often seen short term benefits of coaching and positive thinking slide away. So we specialise in our AUTHENTIC process for lasting transformation.
- WE ROCK! WE GIVE GREAT VALUE - We are darned good at what we do – give us a try, you won’t be disappointed. Through our workshops, supported by coaching & mentoring we can give you incredible value for money. Or we can give you just what you need on a fully tailored 1:1 or 2:2 basis.
Our AUTHENTIC Transformation Process
These are the steps to take to achieve lasting change and transformation:
A = Awareness
U = Understanding and Acceptance
T = Take on new beliefs
H = Honesty & Humility in where you are & want to be. Holistic approach.
E = Embrace the decision with Energy & commitment. Assess the Urgency.
Get Motivated.
N = Now is the time, Now in the moment - the ‘Power of Now’, act Now
T = Take responsibility. Take aim (focus), keep True
I = Integration. Create an Inspiring ecosystem - environment, peers &
support
C = Conclusion, measure, re-evaluate, repeat (full Circle) – it’s a
never
ending Cycle
Our AUTHENTIC transformation process strengthens the 5 key competencies of Emotional Intelligence: self-awareness, self-management, motivation, empathy and social deftness. These qualities are essential to effective Leadership.
Coaching as a process is designed to help you (the coachee) to gain insight and confidently make decisions though the coach asking you great questions. The coach need have no knowledge of the area/subject matter being coached. The questions should not be leading or directive and will elicit intuitive responses, conclusions, new insights and perspectives by you - the ‘coachee’. The coach offers an impartial, non-judgemental service that helps breakthrough whatever may be holding you back.
In an often quoted study by the Manchester Group, ‘Improved Relationships’, at 77%, made the greatest contribution to improved Return On Investment from coaching.
Mentoring is quite different - the mentor gives advice and insight based on
his/her specialist experience and knowledge, which is shared in a
teacher:student way. The mentor may ask great coaching questions, and may also
lead the client/student towards conclusions that are favoured by the mentor, based
on his/her experience. The mentor may be asked for their advice and may freely
give it.
Relationships - the complex and emotional interaction between two human
beings is not something that can be mentored, unless the mentor has had
specialist training and plenty of experience in effective relationships. Life experience (the university
of life) alone does not teach us what we truly need to know in order to be fulfilled
and reach our true potential in relationships. Instead, life experience tends to merely propogate behavior that does not get the results that we would wish for.
This is why our combined approach of education and mentoring, followed by coaching, based on very specific and high quality training and experince in relationships, is essential to gain the results that you wish for.
THE IMPORTANCE OF RELATIONSHIP EDUCATION
We have a firm belief that to serve you well and give you the best value in transforming your relationship experience, we first need to share with you an awareness and education on relationships. Once you start to become aware of what typically goes wrong in relationships… and understand why, then you can honestly relate to your own situation, patterns and past experiences. From here, with an awareness of new possibilities, you can have the belief that it CAN all be different. These are the first three stages of our AUTHENTIC transformation process. From here, coaching can be quick and effective.
Think about these three scenarios:
- You’ve enjoyed a long and expensive education, at school, maybe university and then with specialist vocational, technical and/or managerial training. This leaves you feeling well equipped and confident to deal with any situation that may arise at work? If there is something new or tricky to deal with, you most likely have a colleague, a manager or a specialist whom you can refer to.
- Or maybe you have risen through the ranks without training, using entrepreneurial flair and are used to getting your way and enjoying success, with all the hard work paying off.
- Perhaps you feel a little unsupported at work, a little exposed and could do with more training, mentoring and support.
Here is a true story about a successful businessman – he had his own very successful pharmaceutical business. He was very well educated with over 15 years training, including two PhDs. There was nothing at work that could ‘phase’ him. When he rolled up at work in his Aston Martin Vanquish and put his key in the door – he confidently knew that there was nothing that he could not handle. However, on returning home, as he put the key in the front door of his house, he had no idea how to handle the noisy, demanding, chaotic scenes of his stressed, unhappy and demanding wife and kids. Nothing he tried seemed to make them happy. We asked him how many years of training he had invested in to master his relationship & home environment – he looked shocked! The answer, unsurprisingly, was none.
....just for the record - I think you're an amazing coach, an amazing man, straight and honest and a heart as big as a mountain. And I also believe that you are truly doing this to help people.
Yousuf, Entrepreneur, Devon
Andrew's coaching has assisted me in becoming the Man I am today and I will continue to ask him for help and assistance in what is an ongoing journey.
Paul, Entrepreneur, London
I approached Andy Nicholson to help me address old negative patterns that kept coming up around my relationships with men. I soon found Andy to be an intuitive and empathetic coach who encouraged me to be very honest with myself and about who I am and what I truly want and need in a relationship. Andy very quickly enabled me to identify my negative beliefs about asking for what I really want and need in a relationship. I had convinced myself that asking for what I really wanted would somehow make me vulnerable and this led to an issue around trust.
With Andy's help I was able to work out a new way of thinking, both for myself and for any future relationship, so that I felt honest, empowered and free to be myself.
I can't thank Andy enough, it really has made a big difference to how I see my future and what I believe is possible. I have already been putting my new insights into practice with positive results. This has not only given me more confidence, but also happiness, because now I can stop worrying about getting it wrong or right and start to accept myself. From this point I know I will attract the right person to me. Don't waste time looking for the answers in books and through friends or people you know, get Andy the 'Relationship Coach' to help you uncover the truth and empower you to go for what you really want and love. This will set you free! Thanks Andy.
Simone, Managing Director and Life Coach, Warwickshire
"We learned more about each other during one hour of relationship coaching than we'd learned in five years of marriage".
Brian, IT Manager, Scotland
Thank you Andy and Diane for opening my eyes so I can look into my soul and begin to love myself. This has allowed me to start living my life and made me realise what I have to look forward to.
Sheena, Banking Executive, London
Thank you Andy for your great coaching in a time when I really needed motivation. Now is when I realize that all that we talked about is truth. Its just about taking that first step which you helped me find...
Marcos, Entrepreneur, Spain
Andy and Di appear a great team. I look forward to their journey together and the wonderful things they choose to share with the rest of us.
Diane, Teacher & Life Coach, West Midlands
I wanted to thank you both so much for last week. You are both such amazing, inspirational people and I truly loved being in your company. I hadn’t realised it when I was there in Leamington Spa, but I had been holding on to the attachment of my marriage and only yesterday, I realised that I can step out of my comfort zone and go ahead with the divorce now because I have nothing to be afraid of by not being in a destructive relationship anymore. I feel lighter and happier already. It would be wonderful to see you both again sometime and I’m sending you loving happy thoughts. With love,
Donna, Teacher, Devon
Di MacDowall is remarkable. She has made me realise I'm remarkable too! I'm buzzing! All the control lies inside me, not outside. Looking forward to a new life Thank you!!! Anon.
Cosmic Ordering Testimonial: This course opened my eyes to the potential of "the secret", filling in the blanks the film misses out. With the opportunity to see the law of attraction in motion using an eye-popping feat of physical strength to the answering of my own personal nagging doubts, Andy and Di eliminated my fears surrounding cosmic ordering and, not only helped me believe I could live the life of my dreams but also made me understand more clearly exactly what that is! I am extremley grateful for them running this wonderful course.
Chris, IT Analyst, Reading
Success in Love & Relationships Testimonial: Andy and Di took me on a journey through relationship dynamics that massivley boosted my understandings of why they do and don't work. I became aware of why relationships hadn't worked out in the past but most importantly became confident that things would work out for me in the future. Which, for a single man, is a bit of a relief! Most importantly I discovered who the most important person was in any relationship I enter into. Myself.
Chris, IT Analyst, Reading
In April of this year, I was lucky enough to attend Di MacDowall’s “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” seminar in London. It was, for me, a thoroughly enlightening and empowering experience; difficult to describe in a few words, as the effects of such a seminar are long lasting and self-perpetuating. But I felt that through Di’s teaching, understanding and enthusiasm, I underwent a process of clear self-evaluation; recalibrating my perspective and seeing beyond my self-imposed boundaries, which enabled me to move forward to a new phase in my life. Something I had wanted to do for many years.
Coupled with this wonderful experience, I was also privileged to attend Andy Nicholson’s evening seminar on “Love and Relationships” which clarified many issues I had been struggling to understand. Andy’s inspiring and caring way of teaching made the complicated issues of human relationships seem much more manageable.
It is with heartfelt gratitude to them both that I write this testimonial. I would thoroughly recommend that anyone striving towards a happier and more fulfilled life should seize the opportunity to attend their seminars and experience their own transformation at firsthand.
Lynne, South of France
THANK YOU SO MUCH to you both for a wonderful two days. I feel like I've benefitted enormously from your teaching and am looking forward to putting it all into practice. Lynne, South of France (after 'Success in Love & Relationships' 2 day workshop)
Andy has such an abundance to share and teach with regard to relationships, and he's the most amazing coach ..... when we first began our relationship together, he took my hand ever so gently and guided me back into my feminine, purely because he was so much in his masculine and so at peace with who he is. It's an amazing experience to be around a man who is so trusting and gentle, yet so masculine at the same time. Basically he just guided me into being able to love unconditionally and give so much more of myself, I guess, ultimately because I feel so safe allowing myself to give so freely to him, so it just happens naturally ..... the polarity in our relationship is amazing..... if only we could learn all this stuff in school huh! Andy would be the first to admit that he was nothing like this 2 years ago.....
Everything I've learned from Andy has also allowed me to see so clearly for the first time the part I played in how and why everything went so very wrong in my marriage. I operated often in my masculine....I took care of absolutely everything at home.... applying for the mortgage, the finances, the credit cards etc, and along with that I was a very strong an confident woman, to the point where I had practically emasculated my husband.... somewhere in there, when a woman takes the man's role away from him, the respect is lost between them, and along with that, the sexual connection disappears too, which is exactly what happened… I look back now and realise how daunting it must have been for my husband to approach me, and during all that time, I was unable to see my own part in all of it..... until last year that is....
Diane (Andy's partner & soul-mate), Life Coach, Warwickshire
Q. How does Relationship & Authenticity Coaching & Mentoring differ from traditional Life Coaching
A. As explained above Relationship coaching & mentoring required considerable knowledge, training and experience. It is unlike pure life coaching, which assumes no knowledge or expertise on the subject being coached, and relies on the knowledge and intuition of the coachee.
Q. How are Coaching or Mentoring different to Counselling or Therapy?
A. Neither life coaching or mentoring is meant to be a therapy or counselling service. Coaching and mentoring is forward looking. Whilst we may well delve into the past to get to the root cause of an issue, to raise awareness, gain understanding and take responsibility – we do not dwell on the past.
The Law of Attraction states that your thoughts become your reality. When you dwell on thoughts from the past you reinforce any emotions associated with them. If the thoughts are at all negative, the associated emotions (e.g fear, doubt, guilt or jealousy) can increase in intensity in the present moment - to far greater levels than in the past. This can lead to at best, unhelpful, at worst, paralysing obstacles that halt you in your tracks, or lead to procrastination, fear, depression... or worse.
Through raising your awareness, improving your thinking and learning new and empowering habits, this downward spiral can be reversed and turned into an upward spiral leading to contentment, happiness, love, success and peace.
Q. How Many Sessions Will I need?
A. This is very much dependent on the nature of your issue or goals, whether you have the knowledge that you need and simply require some good coaching to draw out the perspectives and conclusions, or whether you require new knowledge together with assistance to applying it to your particular situation.
For relationship issues, we recommend following our AUTHENTIC transformation process. This can be achieved through a combination of coaching, mentoring and ‘homework’ assignments between sessions. The process can often be speeded up and made more cost effective by attending our workshops. At the end of your no obligation initial session, we will agree with you the best course of action.
Q. Should I have phone coaching and mentoring or face-to-face?
A. That is entirely up to you. We are very used to working on the phone. Video conferencing may be an option too (at no extra charge). Face to face meetings are generally slightly more effective. Depending on your proximity, they may be cost effective for you (we charge £1 per mile travelled for the time and cost of getting to you). You may well wish to consider an Immersion Day with one or both of us.
Q. It seems like a lot of money to commit
A. Our prices are very reasonable. In fact many people have told us we don’t charge enough. Rather than considering the cost of investing in yourself and your education, ask yourself, what is ignorance or lack of progress costing me?
Here are some other perspectives to consider:
- I am now able to consider my first marriage an education – it cost me in the region of £80,000-£100,000. At least now I can look back and see the positives in that learning - before I just saw anger, frustration and expense.
- The coaches and experts that we have trained with have charged: £300/hour, £6,000 for two days couples' coaching, and even £5,000 for a single day immersion & breakthrough session. So we know we give awesome value.
- Other professions typically charge £100-£200 per hour.
- By comparison, commercial coaching and consultancy rates are generally £750-£1500 per day, or up to £250 per session. Commercial training typically ranges from £250 to £500 per delegate per day.
- I recently met an 'Auto Detailer' who can restore your car back to showroom condition, working on it for a day or two for £200-£400, adding £1000 - £2000 (of depreciation) back onto the value of your asset. How many people are willing to do similar for their relationship? How far has your relationship depreciated from its original intent. Which is more important? What's it likely to cost you if you don't invest soon?
